Helping yourself heal from grief and loss
Grief comes in different ways and magnitudes depending on a variety of factors like closeness to the deceased, age and mental state just to mention a few. However, the bottom line is that the pain of loss is second to none. To help you navigate that unforgiving road to recovery, here are a few pointers that might just make that load feel not so unbearable after all:
Don't bottle up your feelings
A lot of the time people avoid talking about their grief and turn to work or anything that promises a means of escape to an alternate reality even for the tiniest of moments. While it might seem like this is working out for you, what it's actually doing is piling up the pain until it becomes a raging storm that could destroy you once it breaks free. Therefore, talk with friends or family about how the loss makes you feel. Let it all out, cry your heart out if you must, the point is, you have to express your sorrow somehow. Grief is like a chain around your soul and the shackles will feel like they're loosening with every talk and sob. Maintain connections with the departed Maintain the links you had with the deceased by carrying on their hobbies, having regular one-sided talks, writing them letters and celebrating their special dates and achievements whenever they come around. Moreover, make a point of constantly remember the good times you had with them; go through shared pictures, text messages and things of the sort. You could even put on their favorite clothes and accessories like jewellery every once in a while. Eventually, it will feel like, although they are gone, they are still with you in a way.
Join a local Death Cafe
Only the wearer of the shoe knows where it pinches most; this couldn't be any truer when it comes to coping with grief and loss. Therefore, get in touch with those who have been in your shoes at one point. These people completely understand what you are going through and are therefore better placed to give you all the help you need to get through the pain. Observe your normal routine It might be a tall order, however, strive to do the things you would normally do a daily basis. It is important to maintain some sense of normalcy during this time, do not let your world come to a standstill. Otherwise, the acceptance and moving on process could drag on for ages.
Exercise is the only drug you need
While there are a lot of alternatives out there that effectively numb the pain of grief, all of them come at a cost. Regular exercise, however, can help you cope a great deal and in a healthy manner. It triggers the release of serotonin, a hormone responsible for inducing sensations of happiness, relaxation and alleviating the anxiety and depression that accompanies grieving.
Therapy is essential
Talking to a professional is your safest bet at coming to terms with a loss. They have spent countless years polishing their trade and are skilled at helping people getting around bereavement. However, go for counselling only when you are good and ready; otherwise, it won't be of much help.
Strive to maintain a healthy diet
During this period it's quite easy to develop eating disorders that could, in turn, hinder your recovery process. I know it's extremely difficult to maintain regular meals however it will do you good to force yourself to do so. Set reminders and alarms or better yet have a friend or relative around to help you implement this. With grief, comes a devastating sense of bereavement that if left unchecked can consume you from the inside out leaving you feeling like nothing but an empty shell. Therefore learn to embrace the pain. I know this is easier said than done, however, I assure you, it does get better with every waking day. Just hold on a little while longer.
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